Friends who become ghosts.

I observed that, in a circle of friends, when one enters a relationship, or two among your friends become in love with each other and about to enter or just entered a relationship, they start to become isolated a bit. Of course, and I’m going to say this now, there are exceptions just like anything else. This is just an observation of mine, and comment if you want if I said something wrong. Now, I’ve noticed this kind of event every now and then, within my circle of friends, colleagues and other people as well.  But it can’t be helped and sometimes we just have to be tolerant, we friends.

Although it may be a different story if the person you are close to is the one who enters in a relationship. I’m not saying this because I’m frustrated not having a relationship right now. Before I encountered this and it really made me think a lot. The attention of your friend lowers down and you become a ghost. You appear only when he or she needs something from you and only you can do this favor or you are the only one he or she can trust to do it. At first, it’s really irritating because the amount of bonding time  you usually have with this friend of yours is so sufficient and then it suddenly decreases until you get out of the picture. Eventually, you’ll feel depressed and just hang-out with some other friends. If you’re desperate, you’ll try and try to get that friend’s attention but trust me, you’ll fail.

Those times when both of you talk about problems and good stories are gone. Those bonding moments, all are taken to that friggin’ relationship that’s already there or just about to take shape. Jealous? in way, yes.

But keep this in mind, all the time: you are a friend. Much more if that friend’s bestfriend. You have to take this into consideration that this supposedly inevitable event will eventually happen. You have to understand and for sure when you enter a relationship, you’ll also experience this. You’d probably, and your friend as well, won’t notice that they’re not giving enough attention to everything else. Come on, just as what everybody else is saying, it’s “love”.

I’ve experienced this before and I realize I nearly made myself look like an idiot and I’m experiencing this yet again. Yes, definitely you’ll become a ghost to this friend of yours and might vanish from this person’s perspective but if you’re the true friend, you’d be the sort of person who’s the 911 in his or her need. Of course, it’s a different story when you are also planning a relationship with this person and kind of considering yourself a failure. But in the aspect of being a friend or bestfriend, be that person. Don’t mind if you don’t get the same amount of attention as before. Other people will know your story and be a good friend to you as well and I think that will be enough to compensate for you.